Navigating Platonic Friendships, Workplace Relationships, and Rumors

*LOST EPISODE Date: May 21, 2021*


Can friendships between men and women ever be truly platonic? Join us as we stir the pot with this provocative question while we catch up after our long hiatus. Throughout the pandemic, our lives took diverse turns and we’re eager to share stories that range from solitude successes to desperate social cravings. With humor as our anchor, we navigate through our choices in COVID-19 vaccinations, from Pfizer and Moderna to staying unvaccinated, complete with jokes about side effects and the nail-biting wait for test results.

The spotlight then shifts to the complex world of workplace relationships. Ever heard of a "work spouse"? We dig into what that means, discussing whether it's merely a platonic bond or a precursor to something more. As personal boundaries blur within office walls, we explore the enticing yet dangerous dance of workplace romances, spicing up the conversation with tales from office parties where inhibitions often take a backseat. Our banter takes a humorous look at how aging affects emotional expression, altering workplace dynamics and shifting priorities.

And who doesn't love a good rumor? Take a look behind the curtain at how workplace gossip can spiral out of control. We share our own escapades with mistaken identities and privacy faux pas, reflecting on how the rumor mill spins faster than ever. With a candid approach, we ponder the changing tides in how rumors are spread and perceived, before closing with a cheeky discussion on the fascination with adult content and its impact on workplace interactions. Tune in for laughs, insights, and a bit of workplace drama!

Transcript

Vaccinations, Risky Business, and Wait Times

Speaker 2 0:36

The Thank you . Welcome , welcome , welcome back , welcome back , welcome back everybody . Oh shit , we already have a shit malfunction . Welcome back to Imperfect Scenarios . It's been a long time since we've been recording How's everybody doing ?

Speaker 3 1:10

Yo , what up , what up .

Speaker 2 1:12

Alright , alright .

Speaker 1 1:13

Doing alright , Becky .

Speaker 2 1:14

Ladies , hey , we have a special guest tonight . You know what ? We ain't never asked you what you want to be called . What do you want to be called I ?

Speaker 3 1:23

don't know , Be careful bro .

Speaker 2 1:32

We'll pick out a name for you . We don't give you a name . How about we just say let's just say capo , is that ? That's fine ?

Speaker 4 1:37

who capo nah , you can call me Thriller . There's got to be a story behind it , right ?

Speaker 3 1:43

So we call him Thriller .

Speaker 5 1:49

That segues into the topic .

Speaker 2 1:50

I know right . So how's everybody been ? What about you , mack ? How you been bro .

Speaker 3 1:55

Man , I've been like surviving bro . It's been a day to day , you know . I mean it's fun . I think the last time we recorded we were just going into Corona , right in the middle of the Corona .

Speaker 2 2:05

Right , right , right . I think it was like the week of right yeah man .

Speaker 3 2:09

And I remember that , like it was yesterday , we was all talking about it . We was like man , this ain't going to be nothing in a couple of months . We'd be good Damn .

Speaker 1 2:16

Here we are next year .

Speaker 2 2:17

Right . A year later , is it me ? Oh , I'm loving it . I don't know about y'all , I'm loving it . I'm loving being home . I'm loving doing shit . I put on 20 pounds . I'm feeling good . You don't love it ? What's wrong ?

Speaker 1 2:31

I'm a social person . I I'm in like the same four walls , working all day and then doing home stuff .

Speaker 2 2:37

There's no separation are you kidding me ? This is like the life yo . I don't want this shit to end seriously . I'm just hoping another variant come out .

Speaker 3 2:48

I don't know about that , but you know what ?

Speaker 1 2:51

let me go on a trip , and then I'll see how I feel about just staying home . After that . I just need to recharge well , you're not vaccinated , right no so why are you not vaccinated ? Yeah , I have no intention of doing it . Oh , you want to talk about it , or no ? No , okay , we won't talk about it .

Speaker 3 3:07

Everybody else vaccinated Yep , yes , yeah , I am .

Speaker 2 3:10

Which ones did you get ? What about your back ?

Speaker 3 3:12

Pfizer Two shots .

Speaker 2 3:14

Yeah , do it about you , thrill .

Speaker 4 3:16

Yeah , I got the Pfizer version as well .

Speaker 2 3:19

Peach Me too .

Speaker 5 3:22

Yes , I got the Moderna , that's why you have that thing growing on your neck . Whatever I was going to say , bro , you have a little bluish over there . I don't want that .

Speaker 1 3:32

Have y'all started to grow like third nipples and fingers and stuff like that yet my penis got bigger .

Speaker 2 3:36

Oh , okay , okay , like two and a half inches Mac's like can I go back and get a second dose ?

Speaker 4 3:48

He's like wait a minute .

Speaker 3 3:50

When's ? The booster come out but you can't mix and match . I wonder why not ?

Speaker 2 3:56

I mean , I guess it makes sense , but I'm just curious , like they say it's similar , similar vaccines , right ?

Speaker 3 4:01

yeah , man , but look , you wanna try it get one Pfizer shot and one Moderna shot .

Speaker 2 4:05

To be honest with you , I didn't even wanna get say it's similar , similar vaccines , right , yeah , man , but look , you want to try it .

Speaker 3 4:06

No , hell , no nick , listen , get one pfizer shot , one moderna shot to be honest with you , I didn't even want to get .

Speaker 2 4:10

I , honestly , was one of the people that's like no , I'm not getting a vaccine yeah , I said that too .

Speaker 3 4:14

I wasn't , I did say that I was .

Speaker 2 4:15

I said I'm not getting it . But then I was in , uh , I work in the hospital and , um , a doctor came up to me and he was just talking about the vaccine , how he was against it and all this . He was giving us all these data numbers and all this stuff . But he was like , but I'm going to take it . And I was like , well , why ? He just gave us all the reasons why not to take it . He was like he said he felt it was going to be a time when they were going to make you take it . And he said , when they make you take it , it's not going to be the Pfizer , take the Johnson and Johnson . And he said , whatever you do , do not take it . And this is damn near seven months ago , he said , when that Johnson and Johnson , he said I hope nobody takes it . And look , look , johnson , johnson going through it .

Speaker 1 4:52

So he knew what he was talking about . My doctor told me if you're going to get it go , johnson and Johnson .

Speaker 2 4:57

Why .

Speaker 1 4:57

Because it's the weaker one and you don't know what's in that shit .

Speaker 2 5:00

Oh , so he said it's a week away . That's what my doctor told me . He said it's a week away , but you want to know something .

Speaker 1 5:04

So I didn't get vaccinated , but I am going to travel . So I did get COVID tested this morning , okay , and the first thought I had is like this is waiting for HIV results .

Speaker 3 5:14

Yeah .

Speaker 5 5:14

Like you're just waiting , and you're waiting for 15 .

Speaker 1 5:19

You don't get STD testing , yeah , but I don't wait for the results . Like the rapid , oh , but like the rapid .

Speaker 5 5:23

Don't the doctor's office call you if something's wrong ? Or did you have symptoms ?

Speaker 4 5:28

Oh no , she wants to get the rapid test .

Speaker 2 5:31

She's living a risky lifestyle Are you itching or burning .

Speaker 1 5:34

What I'm saying is when you get blood tested and you know that the HIV isn't there . Gotcha , gotcha .

Speaker 2 5:47

No , I was sitting in my bed one time it was like years ago I was like , hopefully this shit has come out good . It was my more risky days , I should say .

Speaker 4 5:52

Yeah , I got the rapid HIV test one time .

Speaker 5 5:55

What the fuck ? What crowd am I around ?

Speaker 4 5:57

You said what room am I in ? I feel , like I should excuse myself and you'd just be waiting and that time feels like forever , like you'd just be building up anxiety in your head so wait , they have a rapid hiv test they do have a rapid okay , let me ask you a question .

Speaker 5 6:11

So you're waiting in those 15 minutes and it feels like forever , but what about the time leading up to like your whatever ?

Speaker 3 6:18

risky behavior ?

Speaker 5 6:19

right , because don't you do that for years and then you think I should probably get to it . So what is that 15 minutes ?

Speaker 4 6:25

Well , you know you roll a dice . You know it's different . It's different Like when you win a game and you just roll a dice . Sometimes you know you take that chance .

Speaker 2 6:34

Well , listen , I'm going to be honest with you . This is how I look at it . There's been times you're climbing a bed and you're like , damn , this shit is risky as hell . I'm a nigga , I'm going to keep doing it . I'm going to do it , but as soon as you bust that nut , you'll be like what the fuck did I just do ?

Speaker 4 6:52

Why did I do that ? Why did I do that ? I'm talking about kicking myself .

Speaker 3 7:01

I haven't personally done it , but you've heard about it you can empathize with what they're saying .

Speaker 4 7:07

Max like you dirty motherfucker .

Speaker 2 7:11

I know all you , even you women . I know you've been in a situation when you was into it , but when you was done you was like what the fuck did I just do ?

Speaker 4 7:17

you let them put it in without a comment . I might be pregnant .

Speaker 1 7:20

I mean not . I've never had to take a rapid HIV test .

Speaker 4 7:23

You just said you did no , not having to take it .

Speaker 2 7:26

No , she never took a rapid I said STD test . She took an STD test .

Speaker 1 7:28

You guys jumped into HIV for some reason , like when you get blood tested and you go to the gynecologist .

Speaker 4 7:33

But that's when they call you for the results , though that's when you wait , and then they call you and you be like oh shit .

Speaker 2 7:49

Or they call you . You're like you gotta come to the office . Oh shit , yo , I had that before they called me up . There's like um , um . We can't tell you the results over the phone . I was like what the fuck ? So she's like . She was like you have to come in , so I because I went in .

Speaker 5 7:57

It's like the walk of shame . I know , I know everybody , so I'm sitting in the waiting room .

Speaker 2 8:01

I'm sitting in the waiting room , the nurses walk by looking at me and just kind of nod and I'm like fuck . So I mean , she ended up telling me it was something , like it was something , it had something to do with my health , but it had nothing to do with anything else .

Speaker 4 8:10

She said oh , you was worried about that , I was like fuck , you want to tell me to come in ?

Speaker 2 8:28

She said no , you know your man , I'm like yo the fuck what you tested me for , right you did , poking around like I'm a damn car , like shit , no , anyway . But that brings us to the next topic you guys are dirty , sucios say what right straight up sucios what is that dirty dirty ?

Speaker 5 8:43

dirty nasty , oh shit that don't even mean that you like nasty nasty suelto is just like you loose right .

Speaker 2 8:58

So what is suelta ? Suelta , and what would you say ? Sucio , sucio .

Speaker 1 9:01

So sucio is dirty suelta , and it was when you said sucio , sucio , so sucio is dirty , sucio is dirty , suelta is loose okay , so I know spanish like does that mean really literally loose , like a hoe loose or that ? Just means like if you look at somebody and you say suelta yeah , that means like you're , you're a hoe , you just basically calling somebody a hoe . Yeah , okay , I got it , but sucio could mean many things , like you know . You could like the kitchen is dirty , you could fart in the corner .

Speaker 2 9:25

I'm gonna call you a sucio sucio , I think I heard that before . I hope nobody said that to me I probably called you a sucio . You probably did before we jump into the topic what's that guy ? Anybody watch pose ? Yes , okay , what's that guy . What's the main character ? Not the main character . He's tell billy uh , billy porter , right , billy porter . So he comes out what he says he has aids now right oh hiv .

Speaker 1 9:50

So do you guys watch pose ?

Speaker 2 9:53

okay , I know who he is . Do the , do the , do the backdrop of pull , because people I don't know pose is about .

Speaker 5 9:59

He's the gay right , like the gay guy that yeah , he wore like the hat with the drape .

Speaker 1 10:03

I don't know for one of them awards yeah , the one .

Speaker 2 10:06

Then he wore like the tuxedo with the dress , the long dress , right , yeah , that's right but so pose is a show about the drag queen ball scene in the 80s and right when that was the height of hiv right and you know so he does , he plays his character .

Speaker 2 10:24

I don't really . I watch it like here and there . He plays a character who has just learned . I guess last season he learned that he got AIDS right hiv hiv . He learned he got hiv . You know he's , he's playing , he plays the hell out this part . But recently he just came out it says he really does have hiv .

Speaker 5 10:39

So he never just find out , no , he , no , he always knew , he just never told anyone Right For the last 14 years he's been living in shame for 14 years and not saying anything .

Speaker 1 10:47

And he said that through this role in this show he was able to kind of speak his truth . And he felt that because when you got AIDS in the 80s it was like a plague , right , that's what they call it . It was a plague and so , like , what he's saying is that I survived the plague because I'm here to tell the story , wow , so I just thought that's pretty impactful .

Speaker 2 11:09

Right . I mean , I don't know why I brought that up , but we was on . So it's kind of a messed up . Segue into a work booze .

Speaker 5 11:21

The topic today is work booze . Strap it up . So what you're saying is no one's going to ever a work boo ever again .

Speaker 2 11:27

Exactly , basically , basically , what is ? What did y'all take on having a work boo ? Do y'all believe in work boo ?

Speaker 5 11:32

like you know , they'd be like is that the same as like a work husband , work husband , work wife ?

Speaker 2 11:36

office wife , all that stuff . What

Workplace Relationships

Speaker 2 11:38

do you ? What do you ? What do you have to say about that ?

Speaker 4 11:42

you guys are awfully quiet , I believe I believe it's somebody that , um , you might identify with , um , as just , uh , you might be spending like more time with them , like y'all might eat lunch like together , but like every day y'all eating lunch together , like you're not even like spreading your time around your friends , like you're focusing on this one person and y'all might do like like little special things together . But you know the relationship can be strictly platonic , but other people on the outside looking in will automatically assume that you guys are doing something that you guys are doing something , because y'all spend so much time together .

Speaker 3 12:16

That's true , but it's probably true because men and women can't just be friends , you don't believe that , oh , I believe men and women can be friends , absolutely Somebody has One of that connection . Either side , maybe both , but either one of those sides has some type of feelings . Now maybe they suppress them , but they got some feelings .

Speaker 1 12:35

I don't think so .

Speaker 5 12:37

I disagree also .

Speaker 3 12:38

It's impossible , but I'd say 80% of the time . You're my friend .

Speaker 1 12:43

That's different .

Speaker 5 12:48

So you're saying that you're in love with me , so it's not impossible , but think about it you didn't answer my question how much time you're in love with me , okay ?

Speaker 3 13:00

so so we're gonna stay with workplace booze . But think about it . How many times ? So let's put it like this if you go percentages like not every time , but percentages when a man and woman is really really close and they're just claiming friendship , how many times do you think at least one of that other person wish it was more percentage wise ?

Speaker 1 13:18

probably more than 50 .

Speaker 3 13:20

Yes , I'll say that , probably more than 50 , but I think that there is a possibility and probability that it can totally be platonic it's hard , it's hard it's definitely hard , especially if they , if one has feelings it's gonna come out one way or another but I can honestly say that I have friends that are guys that are really like my friends but are you ?

Speaker 2 13:45

are you using the word loosely saying ?

Speaker 5 13:47

no like . I've known these people for 20 years they could come to your house .

Speaker 3 13:50

They came to your house but how do they feel about you , though ? Do you know that they ?

Speaker 2 13:53

never . They never try to screw you anything .

Speaker 5 13:55

No and that's what I'm saying , like so , and they've met , like my husband , like they've come , you know they talk to him on the phone , for you know different things , like you know if they have , you know . So it's like they're genuine friends , like I've hung out with their wives , like I've , you know , gone to visit them if they live out of state and I've stayed with the family . You know what I mean . So it's like a real you know .

Speaker 1 14:14

And here's the other thing is that I think that there are women most a lot of women that get along better with men , because women can be catty with each other . So women are very toxic with each other , and so when you have those kind of women in your life that can't be supportive you know strength building women then you lean towards the men , who are not dramatic at all . There there's no drama , there , it's just chilling .

Speaker 3 14:42

You have laughs , there's still drama , but you do know , a man will lay in the cut for as long as it takes until he until that one vulnerable moment and again , I'm not trying to give up , man , man I feel like you're speaking from experience let me find out , you're a

Speaker 2 15:06

tiger . What is that noise ? It's not easy , do y'all hear ?

Speaker 5 15:09

that . That's my ride .

Speaker 3 15:13

What the fuck you hear that it's a whole club . Oh , really , I didn't know . It's a whole bike club , oh shoot .

Speaker 2 15:20

That sounds like some good background stuff .

Speaker 3 15:22

I love it , love it , love it but you know what I believe ?

Speaker 2 15:28

some good background stuff , I love it . But you know what ? You know what I believe ? I believe men and women could be friends after they reach a moment when something happened . Either the woman said , no , um , he don't ever think he's gonna get her . Uh , they did do something . Now they remain friends , right ? Um , it's , it's hard , I . I just think it's hard for a man and woman to be strictly friends like . I met you . We're just friends like , and nobody never thought about , nobody , never tried anything . I never seen you naked anything if they're attracted to each other that's the one clause , right , that's probably the clause .

Speaker 2 15:55

If they're not attracted to each other , then it's possible .

Speaker 3 15:57

There's nothing there but if there's attraction so you can't be a good looking person and just have a friend of the opposite sex .

Speaker 5 16:04

It's hard .

Speaker 3 16:05

It's hard .

Speaker 4 16:06

I mean , I think sometimes friendship is like the foundation of a relationship .

Speaker 3 16:12

That's right . That's true . Some women like , yeah , I want to marry my best friend . It's like okay , Right .

Speaker 1 16:18

Hi , I'm here . Hi , how are you ? But when you say workplace booze because there's a difference between I don't know , maybe there isn't work wife , work , husband , and then like hooking up at work , what do you ? What do you mean ? As workplace booze ? I mean because , for me , hooking up at work , I at the office , I'm not trying to shit where I eat but , believe it or not , a lot of people do a lot of people do , but I don't want .

Speaker 1 16:45

I don't want it like stay away . This is strictly professional . You know what I mean .

Speaker 5 16:49

So I feel like me . Personally , I don't want to open my own door , right ? So if , if , therilla , if you were walking and you know you're , you know my coworker and you open the door for me , like , or if we go and you pay for my lunch , you know you're , you know my co-worker and you open the door for me , like , or if we go and you pay for my lunch , you know what I mean like , is that considered a workplace boo ?

Speaker 4 17:12

that's just being a gentleman , right but no , it has to be more consistent than that it has to be . Maybe we're eating lunch every friday like it's almost but what if you don't have any other friends ?

Speaker 5 17:23

you know for me like I go to work and like I have , you know , co-workers , obviously , but it's like I don't indulge in a lot of the shenanigans that go on , like you know , in in my office . So if I want to eat with one particular person , you know what I mean , or whatever , because they don't deal with the shenanigans either .

Speaker 1 17:42

That would be considered , and if it was opposite sex , that would be considered my workplace bill is what you're saying ?

Speaker 4 17:52

definitely , yeah , somebody that you're consistent with .

Speaker 3 17:54

It's all about consistency . Yep , that would be your work , husband .

Speaker 2 17:55

Yep , that's where it starts right there , that little , that little spark maybe you guys didn't give it an actual name , but if you constantly going somewhere with the opposite sex , you guys are going out , you're , you're meeting up and , um , I don't know , meeting up with the street . Um , you go say hi to him every morning . You , that's your work , that's your workplace . Boo , whether you , you like it or not , right ?

Speaker 4 18:14

Bringing them coffee or um . Oh , could you just run out with me real quick ? I want to go get some makeup , I want to go get my nails done . Can you come with me ?

Speaker 5 18:25

Like those little things just doing that kind of stuff while you're at work ? What if you get your pedicures together ? Does that consider ?

Speaker 4 18:32

work for you ? Oh shit , you don't need . You got dating at that point .

Speaker 5 18:38

What if the other person doesn't get color ?

Speaker 2 18:40

Okay , so I okay so wonder if you have your significant other , you find out that they doing all this with this other person ?

Speaker 5 18:49

would that make you ? Mad yeah , I mean , is she willing to come clean the house ? Well , I'm just let's just say you know , too .

Speaker 2 18:56

No , but just let's say , you know let's say , you know that for some reason , you know that they're not , you know , intimate anything like that . They just awfully close at work . That , would that bother you ?

Speaker 4 19:05

yes , because that's an emotional relationship right , exactly , I think cheating I think , I think , I think an emotional connection is is worse than cheating like physically .

Speaker 2 19:15

Yes , it is that's because you don't use a damn lie . You believe the same thing well , remember , remember .

Speaker 3 19:21

Women usually don't engage until they have an emotional right . So it's like a double whammy from the woman's side .

Speaker 5 19:27

Right , which is a double standard .

Speaker 3 19:28

Not only did she give herself physically , but she gave herself emotionally too . That is totally messed up .

Speaker 2 19:35

Right . Once a woman becomes emotionally involved .

Speaker 5 19:38

The man could just give it up and he's fine .

Speaker 3 19:40

I mean , but it's just a physical thing sometimes for men .

Speaker 5 19:43

I think you're biased , no , but it's just a physical thing sometimes for men , I think you're biased .

Speaker 2 19:45

No , and it's the truth . You know , a guy could do it and just walk away . I mean , some women could do it , but most guys could do it and walk away and not think of another person . But you women , once you start getting them feelings and start calling them and thinking about them and all this other stuff you went into a whole new level and you know that's totally different than just wham bam .

Speaker 3 20:04

Thank you , ma'am . Deny it , let me hear you deny that .

Speaker 5 20:05

I think there's some truth to it , but I also think that there's some women who want the wham bam . Thank you , ma'am . No , it is .

Speaker 2 20:10

No , I'm not saying it's not , but what I'm saying is okay . Statistically , women become more emotional than guys do .

Speaker 1 20:16

Yes , Right Not in 2021 .

Speaker 2 20:22

Yeah , well , you got shows like Pose . That changed it .

Speaker 1 20:24

No , no no , because these men are built differently .

Speaker 2 20:29

They are feeling catchers I think it's a different generation there are some sensitive men out there though . I think it's a different generation though .

Speaker 5 20:35

We could talk all day about that , but I think , as okay , I think that as men get older , they're more emotional than women as women get older . If that makes so , as the woman gets older , she gets less emotional , and as the man gets older , he gets more so it's like there's some there could be some truth to that .

Speaker 3 20:53

There's like a reversal of roles . Yeah , I , I can . I can see it to a little to some extent . Yeah , I can see that is it ?

Speaker 2 20:59

is it they get more emotional ? Or they just start showing emotions because you give . If he never gave you any emotions and he gave you like 5% emotion . You just think he's emotional because you've never seen him before .

Speaker 5 21:09

But I mean well to you . He would be getting more emotional and you would have something to base it on , right Like if he never

Workplace Relationships and Boundaries

Speaker 5 21:16

showed it . But you know , in my experience I feel like as a man gets older , either he's showing the emotion more because maybe he doesn't care , or you know it's a , or he just is becoming more emotional in his old age .

Speaker 2 21:30

No , I know what I think . I think from 16 , 15 , 14 .

Speaker 5 21:35

The man is thinking with his dick well , he's up that until 45 or 50 right , and then once he's dead .

Speaker 2 21:40

Once the dick ain't working right then he's like I gotta start thinking about something so that's probably like 50 ish , you think about people in their sexual prime .

Speaker 1 21:48

Women hit their sexual prime at an older age and men at a younger age , so you're just like oh baby don't leave . So it makes sense that an older woman just wants to fuck and yeah so what you're saying at work ?

Speaker 2 22:01

we need to watch out for the older women . Get you a cougar at work .

Speaker 5 22:04

So you're saying , if there's like oh , like right , you would be like the ones that are about to retire before she walk out the door at her retirement party like what's up I know you've been here for 35 years , but let me , let me talk to you for a

Speaker 1 22:17

second you're about to get that pension , let me get some of that pension baby .

Speaker 4 22:21

Some of that , some of that insurance right right , some of that pension for this penis .

Speaker 2 22:31

So you guys are okay with work booths , then that's what you're saying .

Speaker 5 22:35

There's a thin line .

Speaker 2 22:36

Okay , here you go .

Speaker 5 22:38

Just like Mac was saying , it's tough to navigate that line . I mean .

Speaker 3 22:45

It is .

Speaker 4 22:45

Yeah , you walk a fine line , I think , because the more you hang out with a person you know , like I said , a friendship is the foundation of a relationship . Like you're , basically you're building a relationship with somebody .

Speaker 2 22:57

Right , you also got to think too . We spend most of our time . Well , most people spend most of their time at work than they do at home . Yeah , with their coworkers time at work than they do at home . Yeah , with the co-workers , you , you would . You at work eight plus hours . You get home literally enough to eat dinner and go to bed most times , in most , most cases , and so you have more interactive time with the people at work than you do at home .

Speaker 2 23:17

You know you're spending more quality time with that , like with that person in your own family right , yeah , but I mean not , maybe not intentionally , but you know you at work , you working close to people , you see a person every day , me for one . How many times well , I still talk to the guys probably how many times you walk past someone at work ? You like the way they smell and then you walk in somewhere else . I just say you're in the mall and you know you smell that smell . Somebody in my job smells like that . So it's rare and it's sad because Look at Mac .

Speaker 5 23:44

Sometimes you Mac , don't you work with mostly men ? Actually no .

Speaker 2 23:54

But y'all know what I'm talking about , right ? So you spend most of your time at work , and so it's naturally I don't want to say for all of us Naturally . It has some attraction to the people that you see constantly and that's always in your face , right or wrong .

Speaker 5 24:13

Or that you maybe weren't attracted to them , but the more time you spend with them you're like , oh okay , this person is cool . People grow on you .

Speaker 4 24:17

I think people can grow on you just by , like you said , the many encounters , the many interactions . That's why I go back to consistency . That's why I say with the workbook it has to be consistency . Not somebody that you just see at work and you say hi , and y'all may go to lunch , like once a month . No , that person that you're going to lunch like maybe every Friday or every other day , or even if y'all not even going out for lunch , like y'all might bring y'all lunch , and then at the same time every day , everybody's conjugating in the lunchroom and y'all having lunch and then y'all having all these different conversations and just talking about everything . And then , you know , people start sharing and start opening up . So once you start , like I said , once you develop that relationship , I think anything can happen at that point .

Speaker 5 24:55

So tell us about your work . Blue Thriller .

Speaker 3 24:57

Maybe not , Maybe not it all starts with the Christmas party , so it starts there .

Speaker 2 25:06

It always starts with the christmas party , so it starts there . It always starts at the christmas party .

Speaker 3 25:09

So . So what happens is when you start having those like like thriller was saying , you have those conversations and then all of a sudden it morphs into you're talking about your home life , right , you're talking about what's , what's going on with that , and then it starts to like blossom from there yes , it's at the christmas party .

Speaker 2 25:24

So it's at the christmas to go down is and the christmas party is always the anchor for all of that , always you see that person lonely and all the things you're like , oh , they know , you know this person is , you know , looks pleasing to my eyes . But now it's a christmas party , they got a dress on and you're , like he said , pleasing to my eyes and I know last week she was crying because her husband did this and did that . You know , know , let me go .

Speaker 1 25:44

Let me go see that's that vulnerable moment that you were talking about . Yeah , that's that tiger moment you sound like you when you started talking .

Speaker 5 25:51

you're like , okay , See her in that dress .

Speaker 2 25:55

I see her in that dress . Let me go talk . Watch her walk away . I can now pounce Right . Your voice changed .

Speaker 5 26:03

Okay .

Speaker 1 26:04

Tell us about your work . Boo , he sounded like a predator at that moment . He just gets all alone .

Speaker 4 26:12

Whatever ?

Speaker 5 26:14

As I turn to the corner .

Speaker 2 26:17

See , I know , I see the problem is with you guys . You guys don't you're trying to watch what you're going to say ? I mean , naturally , we all are going to probably watch what we say , but you guys are open to work boos . I know it . I know you are .

Speaker 3 26:26

I could tell I was gonna say maybe on my side , but my partner's side , no , I'm not open to it .

Speaker 2 26:37

Let's get that clear but you know what is ? A lot of people they join together in in all different time types of of arenas . So it's naturally to be attracted to other people , because we're naturally attracted to each other , men and women . So it's hard to say , yeah , I'm going to work , I'm not going to look at anyone , I'm not going to be attracted to no one . I don't believe it . I don't believe it .

Speaker 5 26:59

It's tough because you think about , like initially you're like , okay , that doesn't sound so bad . Like , okay , you , you know , eat lunch with someone all the time and it may start off at least what you think is a platonic situation . But then you know , you start , like you said , getting to know the person and what they like , like the foods they like . You know , okay , I know you like pizza , you want to go get some pizza . You know what I mean , stuff like that . And then you you catch yourself like slipping . That's the scary part is that you know it's a slippery slope , you know into something that you weren't planning on and you got a whole like situation at home .

Speaker 3 27:34

You know so see , that's the difference , though , because a woman , she now starts to get emotionally attached , whereas a man we just like okay , this is for the moment , and we , we , good is it always , though ?

Speaker 3 27:47

no , no , I'm sure it's not always think , think in terms of percentages , always right . So I say for man , you know , it's , it's more for the moment , for the woman , it's that building progression of wow , it feels good to talk to this man , he's , he's listening to me . You know , blah , blah , blah , you hear that kind of stuff , right , and then you know from there . Well , so let me tell you know , blah , blah , blah , you hear that kind of stuff , right , and then you know from there .

Speaker 2 28:08

Well , so let me tell you a story , because this recently happened to one of my friends . So he's in a relationship , I'm married and he recently I guess he even initially started seeing a woman at work . I want , I want to say seeing , because he , they were just friends . Um , he said they were just talking , you know , they was texting each other , you know , just playing around like kind of kind of flirty , but it wasn't like he said , it wasn't like like , like raunchy , anything like that we're . And they both were married , he said not too long ago . He said they all went out to drinks and stuff and of course everybody in the department got drunk , and her included , and they started kissing and it led to whatever he said .

Speaker 2 28:57

For months they've been going back and forth , screwing each other , whatever they both married screwing each other , whatever they're both married screwing each other . And he said that he wanted to cut her off because she's starting to get kind of . You know she starts talking about oh , you know , I think I need to . Oh , is that me ? Oh , he said I need to start cutting her off because she's starting to say things like what's your wife doing yeah , that type of stuff . What's your wife doing ? Um , yeah , that's type of stuff what your wife doing . Oh , um , did she cook for you today ? Why didn't she cook for you ? So he said . She started like basically just pointing out everything bad about his wife . Then she started saying that , oh , I think I'm gonna leave my , I'm gonna leave my husband .

Speaker 5 29:34

so he's like okay , see , so he knows where this is going , yeah but wait a second like time out so you go back to the whole , like the cooking and what his wife like . If she's bothering him about the wife .

Speaker 2 29:44

Like she had to get that information from somewhere From him Because he's thinking remember in his mind , we friends , I can share anything with you . We just fucking , I can share anything with you . So yes , he's giving her information , but in his mind he's just sharing with his boy .

Speaker 1 29:58

Whatever , but I think what I'm saying saying is where did they cross the line ?

Speaker 3 30:06

I mean other than this to cheat . When they started having sex , I'd say , when they start talking about you , if you start bringing your home life into that conversation , that's , that's , that's a killer right , you're gonna , naturally start talking about the negative things right it's just a natural thing to do when you're talking to someone from the opposite sex .

Speaker 5 30:21

You're setting yourself up at that right because for me it's like okay if you could tell me these things about negative about your wife . I know everything about the lady . I know what she likes to eat , like you know whatever it's . It's almost like I could never be in that situation because you would treat me the same way . You know what I mean , so it's like you know that information has to come from somewhere yeah , let me tell you where women mess up .

Speaker 1 30:46

We always like to know what the male perspective is , so we probably sometimes feed too much information right because you always want a male perspective of what's going on yeah , right , yeah and that's where women mess up with that . Yeah , and they allow themselves to be pounced on because that leads to vulnerability .

Speaker 3 31:06

Yeah , right , because as you're talking about it , your emotions are swirling . He's listening , yep , and your emotions are swirling .

Speaker 1 31:12

And then you get vulnerable and right , right , yep , but men do it too , men do it too , men do it too percentages though come on oh yeah , I think you're not gonna have no guy saying oh , my wife but you know , the more like somebody complains about their significant other .

Speaker 5 31:24

it's like that work boo or whoever that person is You're like OK , well , maybe I don't want to be your work boo anymore .

Speaker 2 31:33

Because you're going to complain about me , that's true .

Speaker 3 31:35

You know what I mean . Like , yeah , what do ?

Speaker 5 31:37

you say about me when I'm

Office Rumors and Workplace Relationships

Speaker 5 31:38

not here .

Speaker 3 31:38

You know what ? It's a double-edged sword .

Speaker 2 31:40

I've seen some of the craziest relationships at the workplace blow up in their face , Blow up bad . I'm talking about seeing people open dating , dating each other and their spouses show up to the office and try to kill them . I want to go look , see that I know right . I've seen some of the craziest . I've seen people get pregnant by the person they work , boo , and then their wife show up and it's just as crazy as I think they just when you start doing all that stuff , you just crossing all kinds of lines .

Speaker 1 32:10

It's too much . You just even dating somebody in the office like forget all of the affair stuff , Just dating somebody that you work with .

Speaker 2 32:17

Oh , you're talking about like a regular relationship , it's too much .

Speaker 3 32:22

It is .

Speaker 1 32:25

Because you have , you know know , situations at home , personal situations with each other . You have to go to work and see this person .

Speaker 2 32:28

Oh yeah that's too much , well , and you know what , and a lot of people's offense . I've seen a lot of people date for years in the office and they met . They're married now and so I mean it works .

Speaker 3 32:37

But you know they do .

Speaker 2 32:38

They purposely split people up like that right once again Once they get one you can't be a boss . Right Once they once , once it's opened and they split them . I mean so I seen both . I seen terrible . You gotta go . I seen . So what's the worst you've seen in office ?

Speaker 1 32:54

That's in my office .

Speaker 2 32:59

I went to so many people from your office . Why listen to this ? You might not want to talk about them .

Speaker 1 33:03

Maybe , maybe not , and I plan not to talk about them .

Speaker 5 33:05

We want names , we want it .

Speaker 1 33:06

So security numbers I have to tell you the truth that in my office I try to stay out of all of that shit . I don't want to know what's going on .

Speaker 2 33:15

I really , but you do know , but you don't want to . That comes to me . That is a rumor that I cannot confirm or deny .

Speaker 1 33:27

So yeah , and all honestly , I think behind every rumor is some type of truth to it , some type of truth . What is it where smoke is real ?

Speaker 5 33:30

quick no , that's true . Every time you hear like a rumor it's .

Speaker 1 33:35

I do believe there's something true but then I've also seen people that you know take information and exaggerate it and and twist it and twist it .

Speaker 2 33:44

Who's the messenger ?

Speaker 1 33:45

spread it around and then it just it's like telephone . It grows and grows and grows , and then the message at the end is completely wrong like the telephone game .

Speaker 4 33:53

Yeah yeah , definitely a room . A room will always manifest to something else . Once you tell one person like you said , you know they hear their version of it and then they regurgitate it to one of their friends and it just you know , it just becomes sinister at that point .

Speaker 2 34:07

And depending on it . Depending on it because I'm going to talk about a rumor . It was actually a rumor that I thought was about me and Thriller matter of fact , so in my not like that .

Speaker 5 34:18

Wait a minute . It's a party in here , so somebody came to me was like .

Speaker 2 34:21

They was like yo . I got to ask you a question . I was like what ? It's a female she's like . I heard something about you . I said what'd you hear about me ? She's like . I heard that you like messing with girls and getting duped up the butt with a dildo .

Speaker 2 34:34

I said what the fuck , are you talking about that ? You like that ? Right said whoever she said told her , do you like that ? No , but what I'm saying is whoever she said told her said I did it with her and I was like I was like I don't , I don't , I never did that . And she's like , oh no , she's saying is you you the only light-skinned guy in your office with dreads ? So I was like , nah , I'm not the only like person in the office with dreads .

Speaker 4 34:57

I said it was , but I said , I said , I said I'm beyond sure that's not him .

Speaker 2 35:05

I don't know that's not him . She's like nah , that's one of y'all , one of y'all y'all niggas . You know she's talking what's one of y'all niggas , kind of find , that was another guy that he was new and he had dreads and I was like , but the whole rumor was she . She said everybody was talking about it like it was me or him and I was like God .

Speaker 5 35:21

But you just said that every time you hear a rumor , you feel like there's a little truth to it .

Speaker 2 35:25

So it is , so , it is , so it is some truth to it , but it just wasn't the guy with the right guy with the dreads . So it's truth to the rumor , but it wasn't the right person , basically .

Speaker 5 35:34

Oh , I'm going with . It was you and you like to tell those things . Listen , listen , maybe you like to . Those are your . The rumor wasn't about me . Do you have dreads ?

Speaker 2 35:52

do you have ? So yeah , so I mean the work , the workplace would be a shady place . So I don't know , I don't know what to tell y'all .

Speaker 4 35:57

Yeah , the workplace is definitely shady because at one point it was a rumor going around that I had slept with this woman and I'd never slept with her , and she started the rumor .

Speaker 2 36:07

Yeah , I guess she wanted it to be true . Yeah , I , I . I agree with a bit . I had some rumors was people said that I slept with them . I was like no , I never did that .

Speaker 3 36:16

I never did that ever what's the point of a woman doing that though well , I was she necessarily lying .

Speaker 5 36:21

Is what I'm saying , like you guys say no , but it was gonna make it even less likely to happen that honestly this , this new generation women .

Speaker 2 36:30

I believe it . But back in the day women probably wouldn't do that . But I think now some of these women lie so much and so bad that I believe that they . They , some people , some women just want to be like in an in crowd and they want to be like oh okay , yeah , I had him and all this other stuff , just like it was . It was a woman in my office that told another girl that I was , I was stalking her and talking . I was like I don't even know who she was , I don't even know her name , and she would swap it down . I did . And then , when , when I told the person that I didn't do it and she went back to it , she said oh I , she's like I never told you that . She said she said , tyson , I swear to god , she told me that and then now she's denying it . I'm like y'all . I'm like I don't want you , want me to tell you I ain't never did .

Speaker 5 37:05

But how do you get involved in stuff like this ? I don't know some women .

Speaker 2 37:09

Just , they just want to be a part of something and they just want to I don't know be loved , I guess so what do you feel about workplace booze ?

Speaker 2 37:15

what I feel . You know what you know . I don't have a feeling about it , but I do know that it happens and and have I have , I went out with people and and you know , went out with them on a schedule and yes , I have . But in your mind you're not thinking like this , my workplace boo . But the more you talk about like damn , that could be kind of my boo , that you know , if someone on the outside looking in and be like okay , they fucking , yeah , I mean they . But in your mind you you could clearly be innocent , like , oh , sometimes you just feel comfortable . Sometimes you , even with guys , we want to be a place where you feel comfortable and sometimes you feel comfortable with one particular person .

Speaker 1 37:53

As Mac plays the violin in the background , no one was supposed to know that bro that was just for us , but it's true .

Speaker 5 38:02

We don't got the video on today .

Speaker 2 38:04

You're right , but it's true . I mean , I do understand it . I can understand how a person can get caught up , and I do understand that , so that's why I try my best to keep it . What are those things that the horses wear ?

Speaker 4 38:16

The blinders .

Speaker 2 38:17

The blinders , the blinders , and then try to mind my goddamn business , there you go . To mind my goddamn business , there you go , because you know what Men get reckless as hell .

Speaker 3 38:23

I know this guy , Whatever One of my old jobs this guy . He was a vice president brother too , and he operated a whole call center . He got caught up . So I mean , what's wrong with these people , right ? So he's on , so they're all on phones , right , and he can monitor everybody's conversation as they talk to the customers . So he got this little thing going on with one of the girls in the call center . So he actually taps into the phone and him and her are having a conversation over the call center line .

Speaker 2 38:54

Really .

Speaker 3 38:54

And didn't realize that also the bigger brass can monitor as well , and they monitor randomly Right the one time he was with her having this whole chat about what they did last night , what they're going to do tonight , Wait .

Speaker 2 39:07

So now everybody's listening why this is going on .

Speaker 3 39:09

Yes , they're his bosses .

Speaker 2 39:11

Right .

Speaker 3 39:12

Like SVPs of the company .

Speaker 2 39:13

Right , so he's an asshole , because he could have told them that he was on .

Speaker 3 39:16

They heard the whole conversation , man , and they fired him and let her stay .

Speaker 5 39:23

He . They fired him and let her stay . He could have texted her that shit Right , Like how stupid can you be ? And his wife .

Speaker 2 39:26

We get so damn reckless though .

Speaker 3 39:27

That's just . I don't know .

Speaker 2 39:29

You haven't done anything reckless in your life when it comes to relationships .

Speaker 4 39:32

Men are sloppy , we get so sloppy I definitely have you , guys need to learn from us .

Speaker 2 39:36

Guys get sloppy . You know why we get sloppy ? Because we get complacent . We get complacent , then we get we . It's just like we just take , I think , for granted . Because you ain't get caught this time , you're gonna keep doing it . You ain't get caught that time . So the more you don't get caught , the more you get out of stuff , the more you you get lazy . You're like , next thing you know , you damn near leaving your phone open .

Speaker 3 39:58

Your phone open for look at it and that's that's such a good point . Why is the phone probably the number one catalyst for all ?

Speaker 2 40:03

like every situation that goes bad in a relationship is always usually starts with the phone , because it always goes down because the phone , since the start of the phone , since then I guess iphones came out , andrews , all these phones , that's um , have all this . Oh damn you . The phone is your life , so you feel secured , so you have your life . You have everything in your life right there . So the moment somebody gets a hold of it , they got a open book to your life . So you feel secured , so you have your life . You have everything in your life right there . So the moment somebody gets a hold of it , they got an open book to your life . I mean you got your credit card statements in it . You got your bank statement , everything . You got your texts , you got your emails . You got your social media , you got your pictures , you got Pornhub . You got everything on your phone . So anybody want to get access to this porn hub .

Speaker 5 40:42

Have an app .

Speaker 2 40:43

I don't know they should right I don't think so . I don't want to see .

Speaker 3 40:47

You know what they're not going to show up .

Speaker 2 40:48

It's nice you know I don't want to talk about porn hub do y'all know do y'all know that that podcast

Workplace Conversations About Adult Content

Speaker 2 40:52

we did . What about um porn porn hub ? The most watched , the most watched , that is trashy .

Speaker 3 41:01

What is it ? What's it called susio ? No , people like drama , people like like all that high all that sex , oh , that , that particular episode I was talking about oh yeah I have great descriptive abilities , you know ?

Speaker 1 41:16

I think that's what it is .

Speaker 2 41:17

I gave great descriptions oh , are you talking about that ?

Speaker 1 41:19

couple that was doing all that sex . Yeah , you tell you know they married didn't that was doing all that sex .

Speaker 2 41:23

Yeah , how do you know they're married ? That's how they advertise .

Speaker 1 41:26

I mean , they're pretty friends . I don't want to get off track , that's not my business . I'm like what's their name again .

Speaker 3 41:34

Right , that's because sex sells .

Speaker 4 41:36

Yeah , facts .

Speaker 2 41:38

Do you think they sell at the workplace ?

Speaker 5 41:41

Mac . Have you ever had a workplace , boo .

Speaker 3 41:43

No , I never have . Oh , you're full of shit . At least that I'll claim . I'm not trying to get nobody in trouble . But , babe , you know it's all right I love you , baby .

Speaker 2 41:59

I got your back .

Speaker 5 42:01

He's like I'm glad you got to keep your job when we had that phone call . Thank you .